Saturday, April 20, 2024

THE STYLE IS THE MAN.

 THE STYLE IS THE MAN.

Style means manner. A cricketer's style is the way he bats or bowls. When we speak of a speaker's style as being eloquent or humdrum, we mean that he speaks in an eloquent or in a humdrum way. So literary style is simply a manner of writing, and the style of an author is simply his manner of writing his peculiar way of expressing his thoughts in words.

"Style is the man" encapsulates the essence of individuality and character expressed through one's mannerisms, performance, and choices. It reflects not just what one wears, but how they wear it, embodying a unique blend of personality, taste, and confidence. From the tricky merits of posture to the bold statements of fashion, style is the canvas upon which a person paints their identity, signalling their values, aspirations, and experiences to the world. It's the art of self-expression, where every detail, from the curve of a smile to the cut of a suit, speaks volumes about the individual within. In this way, style becomes not just a mode of presentation, but a mirror reflecting the depth and complexity of the human spirit.

Every distinguished writer has a style of his own; for style is a personal matter. No two people are exactly alike; so, when a man speaks or writes, he expresses himself, and no one else. This is what the French writer, Buffon, meant when he said, -" The style is the man."

"A writer's style is as distinctive as his walk, his mode of dress or his habits"-and, we may add, his handwriting. A hundred boys may learn to write from the same copybook in the same school; yet in the end they will write so diversely that it will not require a handwriting expert to tell the difference between them. For example, Thomas Carlyle's style was rugged because Carlyle himself was a rough character; and the even-tempered and clear-headed Addison naturally wrote in a smooth, lucid, and equable manner. A firm grasp of this truth will save young writers from slipping into two fatal errors. One is the mistaken idea that style is something added. to plain writing by way of ornament. Young writers too often think that, to give their compositions "style", they must decorate them with eloquent phrases, ornate metaphors, flowery language, and other flourishes. This is all wrong. It is like plastering the natural face with paint and powder. The first rule for the formation of a writer's style is that he must be himself. The other mistake is mimicry-trying to imitate the style of some great writers. For two reasons this is a mistake. First, because it cannot be done. You may learn to imitate the styles of Modi, Lamb, Carlyle, Macaulay, or Stevenson, but you will capture only their mannerisms while missing their essential qualities. Secondly, because adopting another man's style is like wearing another man's clothes. They will neither fit nor suit you. Your style must be the natural expression of your own, not of another's, personality. Study the styles of good authors, for you should know not only what a good writer says, but also how he says it. But study that, not to mimic his method of self-expression, but to learn how to better express yourself.

"Style is the man" encapsulates the notion that an individual's manner of expression, whether through attire, speech, or behaviours, reflects their character and personality. It suggests that one's style is not merely superficial adornment but rather a window into their inner self. Just as a well-tailored suit can convey confidence and refinement, or a carefully chosen phrase can reveal intelligence and wit, our choices in presentation speak volumes about who we are. Thus, cultivating a unique and authentic style becomes not only a matter of aesthetics but also a means of self-expression and identity. In essence, "style is the man" implies that how we present ourselves to the world is inseparable from who we truly are.

 

Thursday, April 11, 2024

Simplifying Leadership: Embrace Authenticity Over Ideology

 Simplifying Leadership: Embrace Authenticity Over Ideology

In the pursuit of effective leadership, it's vital not to let fear and greed dictate your path. Instead, focus on authenticity and genuine vision.

1.     Avoid Ideological Traps

Great Ideologies Can Lead to Great Confusion. Gautam Buddha's teachings emphasize this point. Rather than burdening followers with rigid ideologies, he encouraged a journey towards inner freedom. Many original spiritual paths echo this sentiment, prioritizing personal growth over dogma. Buddha used to say that courage is one of the primary things required for a person on the path: whether a person is a warrior or a householder, a businessman, a leader in the political sphere, or a monk, courage is essential. Courage cannot be called an ideology, rather courage is a basic human virtue. So, always choose human virtues and not ideology.

The destructive thing which ideology does is that it inflates the ego of the followers apart from the leaders. They start feeling great just by belonging to a particular community or circle. But they don't realize that they are being burdened with something artificial. What helps humanity is the ability to work with ease with others. And to work with ease with others, we must drop ideologies. Otherwise, there is only conflict. Now, how do you work smoothly with others? You can do so when you put your ideologies aside and concentrate on human virtues. And together as individuals, you join your virtues as a team and then you move toward fulfilling a plan.

2.     Discover Your Unique Vision

Each person holds something special within them. By sharing your authentic vision with others, you naturally attract like-minded individuals. Your vision doesn't need to be groundbreaking; it just needs to reflect your true beliefs and values.

3.     Inspire Through Clarity and Positivity

Leadership is about inspiration. By clarifying your beliefs and values, you naturally inspire others. Fear and greed, common tools of neurotic leadership, only lead to chaos and dissatisfaction in the long run.

4.     Avoid Falling Prey to Ideological Fantasies

Historically, ideologies like Marxism, communism, or fascism have promised utopia, a paradise, but always fall short. People may become enchanted by these dreams, but they ultimately lead to confusion and disappointment. Perfection is elusive because humans are inherently imperfect.

5.     Embrace Inner and Outer Transformation

A great leader not only works towards a better world externally but also cultivates peace and growth within themselves. This balance is essential for long-term success in leadership and life.

By prioritizing authenticity over ideology, we pave the way for genuine connection, growth, and lasting impact.

Wednesday, March 27, 2024

Farewell to Basant on her Retirement.

 Farewell to Basant on her Retirement.

Revered Managing Committee, President, Principal and Staff of Shri Mahavir Jain Higher Secondary School, Rani Park, Jammu City, ladies and gentlemen, and honoured guests. It is both a privilege and a touching moment to stand before you today, as an invitee and a guest reflecting on the illustrious career and imminent retirement of Basanti Gurtoo. I am Sham Misri, a close relative of Basanti Gurtoo.

It gives me immense pleasure to speak a few words on the retirement of Basanti Gurtoo, a teacher at Mahavir Jain Higher Secondary School, who is retiring ending March 2024.

As the sun sets on yet another academic year, I find myself at an emotional moment. While the school will rejoice in the accomplishments and memories they have shared, I as a guest member also bid farewell to a cherished staff member, Basanti Gurtoo of Jain Higher Secondary School, Jammu.

At the outset let me say that this school itself stands as a beacon of academic excellence, renowned for its unwavering commitment to nurturing young minds. With a legacy of innovation and achievement, the school has earned a distinguished reputation for producing well-rounded individuals poised for success.  The school's reputation shines brightly, built upon a foundation of integrity, inclusivity, and excellence in education.

To work in such a school with a sterling reputation is a great breakthrough in anybody's career. Such a school attracts students, and educators, who seek nothing short of the best in education and character development. Through a steadfast dedication to advancing a culture of excellence, Shri Mahavir Jain Higher Secondary School has earned the respect and admiration of peers and partners alike, setting the standard for educational institutions.

The school's reputation as a centre of academic excellence is a testament to the tireless efforts of the management, staff, and students. In the competitive landscape of education, the school's reputation as a nurturing and innovative learning environment is a source of pride and inspiration for all.

I have my feelings when the Managing Body of the school announces the retirement of Basanti Gurtoo, a beacon of wisdom, guidance, and inspiration for several years. I trust that her dedication and passion for teaching might have left a permanent mark on the hearts and minds of countless students, colleagues, and parents alike.

Though I am not directly reflecting on her journey with the school, it's evident that her impact extends far beyond the walls of the classroom. Her firm commitment to nurturing not just academic excellence, but also character and compassion, may have shaped generations of young minds. I believe she might have instilled in the students a love for learning, a thirst for knowledge, and a belief in their potential.

Frankly, I admit I had several encounters with her on important educational topics. I found her beyond her role as an educator. She may have been a mentor, a confidant, and a friend to many. Her kindness, patience, and unwavering support may have touched the lives of all who have had the privilege of knowing her. Basanti, your legacy will continue to resonate within the classes, and the halls of Shri Mahavir Jain Higher Secondary School, long after you bid farewell.

While Basanti may no longer walk the corridors of the school every day, she will forever remain connected with the essence of Shri Mahavir Jain Higher Secondary School.

I extend my heartiest gratitude for Basanti's years of service, dedication, and unwavering commitment to excellence. Basanti, you will be dearly missed, but your impact will continue to inspire the school for years.

Wishing you a retirement filled with relaxation, adventure, and all the happiness you so richly deserve.

With warmest regards,

Sham Misri, Guest Invitee

27-3-24

Friday, March 22, 2024

Sages Daughter and a Mouse

 Sages Daughter and a Mouse

(From the Hitopadesha)

Once, a childless sage found a she-mouse dropped by a kite. Believing it was a divine sign, he transformed her into a girl. His wife, seeing her as a blessing, raised her as their own. Soon the Girl grew into a beautiful maiden. By the age of sixteen, the Sage’s wife decided to get her daughter married.

The Sage liked the idea and suggested that the Sun God would make the best match for their daughter. The Sage prayed to the Sun God to appear. When the Sun God appeared, the Sage asked him to marry his daughter. But the Girl refused the idea and said, “Sorry! I can’t marry the Sun God as he is burning hot. I will be reduced to ashes in his warmth and light”. The Sage got disappointed to hear this from the Girl.

The Sage asked the Sun God if he could suggest a groom for his daughter. The Sun God said, “The Lord of Clouds could make a good match for her, as he is the only one, who can easily stop the rays of the Sun”. The Sage then prayed to the Lord of Clouds to appear and asked him to marry his daughter. But the Girl once again rejected the proposal and said, “I don’t want to marry a dark person like him. Besides this, I am terrified of the thunder he generates”. The Sage was disheartened once again and asked the Lord of Clouds if he could suggest a possible groom. The Lord of Clouds said, “Wind God can make a possible match for her as he can easily blow me away”.

The Sage then prayed to the Wind God to appear and asked him to marry his daughter. The Daughter declined the idea and said, “I can’t marry a frail person like the Wind God who is always stirring”. Once again, the sage got sad and asked the Wind God to give some suggestion. The Wind God replied, “Lord of Mountain is solid and can stop the hard blows of wind easily. He can make a suitable match for your daughter”.

As per the kind suggestion made by the Wind God, the Sage went to the Lord of Mountain and asked him to marry his daughter. But the Girl once again declined the proposal and said, “I can’t marry the Lord of Mountain because he is too cold-hearted”. She asked the Sage to find a softer groom for her. The Sage took Mountain Lord’s suggestion for the same. The Mountain Lord replied, “A mouse will make a perfect match for her as he is soft and can easily make holes in the mountain”.

The daughter approved the idea of marrying a he-mouse. Moreover, she was pleased with this proposal. The Sage said, “This is destiny.

Moral: Destiny cannot be changed.

Monday, March 11, 2024

Kings’ transformation

 Kings’ transformation

In the aftermath of the tragic events, King Hitamata withdrew from the bustling life of the palace and its politics. Carrying the heavy weight of guilt and remorse, he sought solace in the quiet corners of the realm. The lush landscape that once resonated with his noble rule now echoed with the whispers of his internal turmoil.

The king, guided by an inexplicable force, ventured into the deep forests that bordered his kingdom. There, he stumbled upon an ancient temple, hidden from the eyes of the world. The temple, draped in vines and shrouded in mystique, seemed like a haven for introspection and spiritual awakening.

Within the temple, King Hitamata encountered a wise sage who sensed the monarch's inner conflict. The sage spoke of the interconnectedness of life, the delicate balance between duty and detachment. He urged the king to seek forgiveness for his impulsive actions and find a path of redemption.

Embracing the sage's counsel, King Hitamata embarked on a journey of self-discovery and penance. He traversed treacherous terrains, meditated under the vast expanse of the open sky, and immersed himself in the purity of nature. The king's journey mirrored the transformation of the landscapes he traversed—from lush valleys to barren deserts, reflecting the arduous path of his inner pilgrimage.

As seasons changed, so did the king. The burden of governance, once shouldered with ambition, now seemed like a distant memory. The riches and power that once defined his identity lost their luster in the wake of his newfound enlightenment. King Hitamata's heart, once heavy with regret, gradually lightened as he embraced the simple joys of existence.

In the quiet solitude of his penance, the king found a connection with the divine, realising that true nobility lay not in the grandeur of a throne, but in the purity of one's intentions and actions. His dedication to duty transformed into a commitment to the greater good, unmarred by the shackles of power and possession.

The story concludes with King Himatata, now a sage in his own right, returning to the kingdom after years of spiritual sojourn. The ministers, surprised and enlightened by the monarch's transformation, welcomed him with open hearts. The kingdom flourished under his benevolent guidance, as he governed not with the rigidness of a king but with the wisdom of a sage.

The legacy of King Hitamata lived on, not in the opulence of the palace, but in the hearts of the people who witnessed the remarkable journey of a once-mighty ruler who, through trials and tribulations, discovered the true meaning of nobility and redemption.

During the early days of kingship, Hitamata had a loose character. He had many concubines in his court.  

Once, in the king’s court, the soldiers had brought a young man dressed in ordinary attire. The young man was suspected of carrying a hefty sum of money under suspicious circumstances. Based on his appearance, it was not clear if he was the owner of the wealth. The soldiers thought that he might be a thief and might flee with the stolen money. When the king asked the young man about his identity and how he acquired the wealth, the young man explained that he was a servant at the house of a wealthy lady and that all the money belonged to her. Intrigued, the king wanted to know why the lady had given him the money and where he was going with it. The young man revealed that the lady had asked him to wait at a particular place. The lady had an illicit relationship with him and had conspired to meet him after murdering her husband.

Taking all their wealth, they went far away and lived a comfortable life. To verify the truth of the young man's story, the King immediately sent his soldiers to the address provided. The soldiers reported back that the lady had already received information about her servant's arrest. She hit upon a plan. Now, she was lamenting, claiming that robbers had looted all the money and killed her husband before escaping. She had prepared the scene to show her concern for her husband's welfare and planned to commit suicide. For this, she thought of sati to prove her devotion. The next morning, accompanied by the young man and the soldiers, the King reached the lady's house, only to be astonished by what they witnessed. The lady was sitting on her husband's funeral pyre, and it was about to be set on fire. The king stopped the person who was about to ignite the pyre and asked the lady to descend from it. He showed her all the money and brought her servant forward, telling her that he knew the whole truth. He asked her to abandon her wicked ways and be prepared to face punishment.

For a few moments, the lady was terrified, but then she said that before passing judgment on her character, the king should examine the character of his queen.

Saying this, she leapt onto the funeral pyre like a lightning bolt, setting herself on fire. No one did anything, and she turned to ashes. The king returned to his palace with his soldiers. Her last words still haunted him. He started keeping an eye on the dazzling queen. 

One night, thinking she was asleep, the queen got up and left the palace through the back door. The king also started following her carefully. They walked some distance until they reached a hermit meditating. When the hermit saw them, he stood up and took them inside a nearby hut. What the king saw inside the hut was unbearable for him. The queen, upset, started embracing the hermit, and they engaged in a passionate act as husband and wife without any hesitation. The king thought that despite loving his beautiful queen so much, she was betraying him. His anger crossed all limits, and he entered the hut, pushing the hermit and the queen to their death.

When the king returned to the palace, his mental peace had been restored. He began to feel restless and unhappy. His mind became detached from worldly pleasures and the feeling of renunciation arose within him. He felt that there was some deficiency in his duties and actions, which is why God punished him by showing him the scene of the queen’s betrayal. The king entrusted the burden of governance to the ministers and himself set out to perform penance.


Saturday, February 24, 2024

Power of a faithful wife.

 Power of a faithful wife.

Sham Misri

In a bustling kingdom, there lived a young and ambitious merchant named Arjun. Despite his humble beginnings, Arjun possessed a keen business acumen and quickly rose to prominence in the trading circles. One day, he met and fell deeply in love with a charming and virtuous girl named Maya.

Arjun's love for Maya was unwavering, yet he found himself drawn to the allure of the courtesan Leela, known for her beauty and charm. Temptation clouded Arjun's judgment, and he became entangled in a forbidden affair with Leela, despite his promises to Maya.

As their relationship deepened, Arjun's devotion to Maya wavered, and he began neglecting her. Heartbroken and betrayed, Maya suffered silently, hoping for her husband's return to his senses.

Meanwhile, rumours spread throughout the kingdom about the theft of a precious anklet belonging to the Queen. Suspicion fell upon Arjun when it was discovered that he had attempted to sell a similar anklet to a wicked goldsmith known for his deceitful ways. Without evidence, Arjun was unjustly accused of theft and sentenced to death.

Maya, determined to prove her husband's innocence, approached the King and Queen with her anklet, adorned with rubies instead of pearls like the stolen anklet. With tears in her eyes, Maya broke her anklet to demonstrate its authenticity, pleading for Arjun's release.

Moved by Maya's unwavering faith and sacrifice, the King ordered an investigation. Eventually, the truth came to light, revealing the goldsmith's treachery and Arjun's innocence. Overwhelmed with guilt and remorse, Arjun realized the depth of Maya's love and the gravity of his mistakes.

In a grand gesture of repentance and devotion, Arjun pledged his eternal loyalty to Maya, forsaking all other temptations. Together, they rebuilt their shattered lives, their bond strengthened by the trials they endured. And thus, the power of love and fidelity triumphed over deceit and betrayal, casting a radiant light upon the kingdom once more.

Saturday, February 17, 2024

How Arabian Nights Came Into Being?

 

How Arabian Nights Came Into Being.

Hundreds of years ago professional storytellers in India and the Middle East made up the stories now known as Arabian Nights. Later, groups of these stories were put together. One group was translated from Arabic to French by Antonie Galland in the early 1700s. His, ‘A Thousand and One Nights, introduced these Oriental tales to the Western world.

All the collections have one thing in common. A heroine, Scheherazade, tells different stories. She recites the tales for a very good reason: She must save her life.

The heroine was married to Sultan Shahriyar, who had killed his first wife when she was unfaithful to him and then all his later wives in revenge against women. Scheherazade did not want to suffer the same fate. On her wedding night, she began to tell her husband a story and stopped just before she reached the end. The Sultan allowed her to live another day to hear the end of her tale. The next night she finished the story and began another one even more fascinating than the first. Again, she stopped before the ending, gaining another day of life.

And so it went, for a thousand and one nights. Finally, the Sultan realized that Scheherazade was a good and faithful wife, and the couple lived happily ever after.